Journeys of the Spirit® Newsletter October 1st, 2014
WHAT’S NEW? The Holidays Are Almost Upon Us!
Truly – I was just discussing what gifts I was going to get my parents with my sister and that was a year ago! Where did this year go?
I happened to be routing around the web and came on these couple of items and I think they make some pretty nifty gifts! So I’m going to share them with you.
Let me know what you think!
Blessings and love, Sheri Rosenthal
Take Your Power Back Now! Women’s Retreat: Kauai, Hawaii
Nov 9-16th, 2014 – LAST CALL!
Have you excelled at being a mom, climbing the corporate ladder, being a great employee or even running your own business – and you’ve finally reached a point in your life where you’re saying NOW WHAT? If so, Vanessa and Melissa are excited to share this journey with you to the sacred, fluid, and most feminine place on the planet: Kauai.
You are invited into a container of safety and support, where we will explore the divine goddess through a series of playful, inspired practices, ceremonies and rituals. In our experiential playground, we will embark on a journey of self-discovery, closely examining the foundational aspects of feminine leadership.
This retreat is designed to immerse you in 5 star luxury. You’ll have your own private room with a gorgeous view and Jacuzzi.
Trip investment: $5000 USD per person single occupancy in a private room and all meals.
CHANGE YOUR HABITS, CHANGE YOUR LIFE
We become what we repeatedly do.”
In my work as a naturopath, so much of what I do is to help people to choose to change their habits. The problems they present with are often the consequences of longstanding habits, the same choices made day in and day out, month after month, year after year. Our bodies and minds are simply the sum total of how we have chosen to live our life up until this point.
Many people think that they do not have bad habits as such. But sometimes it is the lack of good habits that is just as detrimental to well-being. Sure, you may not drink alcohol every night or do drugs, but if you do not cultivate the habits of going to bed early and exercising for example, the lack of these good habits will rob you of your vitality also.
So how do we change a habit or implement a new one? It is not easy and willpower alone is not always enough. There are some strategies that can be used to make it easier though.
1. What is your WHY?
The most important thing to start with is to understand your why, your motivation behind your old habit and your motivation for your new one. So let’s say you want to lose a few kilos but a bad habit that is holding you back is that every afternoon at work, you hit a 3pm slump and you can’t seem to help having a few biscuits with a coffee. So the first thing you need to discover is why you do it…are you tired? Hungry? Is it an emotional reward? Is it a social thing?
Likewise, it is important to get in touch with the motivation for losing weight. It is useful to try to tap into emotional motivations, as they can be more compelling or inspiring. So rather than “I want to drop a dress size”, the motivation if you dig a little deeper, could be I want to feel confident and attractive. When we tap into a big, important why of our new habit, it makes it easier to see how necessary it is to change the habits that hold us back from becoming who we want to be.
2. Find the TRIGGER..
So with each habit you want to replace, you need to look very closely at your own behavior and find out what the trigger is each time you repeat the habit. So in the example given above, perhaps the trigger is a feeling of hunger or perhaps it is that 3pm is the time when your colleagues take a break to chat with a coffee. So now that the trigger is known, we have several options. We can use the same trigger to compel us to take action with our new habit. or, we can remove that trigger altogether, making the old habit obsolete.
So in the first option, if we are hungry at 3pm or it is our time to socialize with colleagues, we can still respond to that trigger, but in a different way. We can make sure that instead of having coffee and biscuits, we REPLACE the habit with a new one, such as having a cup of herbal tea and some apple slices instead. In the second option, we can simply remove the trigger altogether.
We could for example have a more substantial lunch so that we are not hungry at 3pm. Or we could let our colleagues know that from now on, we would rather continue working through the afternoon break to leave a little earlier. In both of those examples the trigger has been removed, so there is no need to continue the habit.
3. RE-DEDICATE yourself to the habit.
We have all heard the saying “old habits die hard” and it is true, they do! So do not set unrealistic expectations that you will transition into the new habit seamlessly. You will most likely slip up. When you do, it is crucial to mentally speak to yourself positively, without beating yourself up, and to remember your big why and then re-dedicate yourself to the habit. It is also important to realize that every moment presents you with a new choice. Have you tried to do a diet for example, had a slip up, and then told yourself off for it and then felt so bad that you ‘failed’ that you just give up and continue to eat poorly for the rest of the day?
The twisted logic goes something like: “Well I’ve already stuffed that up, I can’t do it, I might as well just finish this whole packet of M&Ms (while feeling super guilty, weak and bad about myself).” This is not going to help! The best thing to do when you slip up is to acknowledge it, forgive yourself immediately, let it go as it is now in the past, and realize you have a new moment to choose again and re-dedicate yourself to the new habit.
4. CONSISTENCY is the key..
Habit are actions that are repeated again and again until they become automatic.So this means that creating a new habit inevitably takes time. you need to keep taking positive action over and over until it becomes natural. Give yourself at least a month to create a new habit, and try to work on one habit at a time, rather than trying to change everything in your life in one fell swoop. As you create new habits you will find that as time passes, you will have created a new body, a new mind, and indeed a new you!
Blessings & love, Sharee James
If you’re ready to take to change your direction in life for the coming New Year – join Sharee in Nepal – Oct 22-31st, 2014 for her Kindfulness – a Healing Retreat in the Himalayas journey!
OUR UPCOMING JOURNEYS
~BOLD OCTOBER EXPEDITIONS~
Awaken your Creative Spirit Through Art, Ceremony & Meditation
Trip Leader: Carol Cumes + Jill Segal
October 15-25th, 2014
Kindfulness – a Healing Retreat in the Himalayas
Trip Leader: Sharee James
October 22-31st, 2014
~NOURISHING NOVEMBER RETREATS~
Take Your Power Back Now! Women’s Retreat
Trip Leaders: Vanessa Simpkins + Melissa Macky
Nov 9-16th, 2014
~DELICIOUS DECEMBER JOURNEYS~
Mastering the Buddha Nature Within
Trip Leaders: Sheri Rosenthal + Lisa Tully
Dec 7-18th, 2014
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